Feather is back with another exciting blog post! As you can already probably tell, I will be talking about being a fangirl in your 20s.
Now, I know there are many out there who are fangirls, and some that are even older than me, but what do you call yourselves? You’re no longer young enough to be called a girl! Fan-woman? It’s so frustrating, because every time I am on the internet, anyone referred to as a “fangirl” are always seen as between 13 and 19. So what about those of us who are older? Here are my top five woes of being a fangirl in your 20s!
1. No One Ever Gets Your References
Or better yet, you can’t make any references, because there is just never a good time to suddenly blurt out “Come along Ponds!” or “Geronimo!” or “Saving people, hunting things, the family business!”.
Most of your friends have “outgrown” their fandoms, and are living in the “real world”, and you are there stuck in the never-ending cycle of trying to claw your way back to reality, whilst also wanting to stay in the beautiful dream of fiction worlds.
2. You Can’t Help but Apologize for Suddenly Freaking Out
This is something I do on a daily basis, whenever I am around “normal” people. When I receive news on my favourite TV shows (*cough cough* Supernatural, Once Upon A Time, Doctor Who, Sherlock *cough cough*) I tend to silently scream into nothing, because I can’t contain my excitement…literally.
I’m bouncing off the walls, or banging my fists against them, just to get rid of the built up tension in my body as I process either the good news or bad news that I’ve read.
3. Your Reactions Are Always Judged
It mainly happens when you’re watching the said TV series. If it’s your first time seeing the episode, and you’re completely taken aback or surprised by a sudden event that you can’t help but react, you usually get those weird stares from the people around you, especially if you’re watching the episode on your laptop, or computer (and they have no idea what’s going on). You can’t easily explain why you’re freaking out because THEY DON’T UNDERSTAND!
4. You Are Always Frustrated When It Comes to The Internet
I know that I’m always on Pinterest, reading old Tumblr posts and stories about headcannons and ships that I tend to forget what time it is. However, whenever there is a post about fandoms in general (especially posts about fangirls) all the descriptions about fangirls tend to be about teenagers, rather than anyone else. I get so frustrated with these posts; I tend to mentally shout at the author: “THEY’RE NOT THE ONLY TYPES OF FANGIRLS OUT THERE!”
Is it just me or does anyone else feel like, when you’re no longer apart of the age group that’s associated with fangirling, you just feel like a third wheel?
5. Lastly, You Constantly Have To Push Second-Hand Fandom Onto Your Friends And Family
Ok, so my family is full of nerds and geeks (which is awesome by the way) because they’re all part of one fandom or another, whether it be Game of Thrones, Modern Family, South Park, Friends, or Harry Potter, and we always have someone to relate to, when it really counts.
As for me, my fandoms are a little towards the nerdy side…since I’m all for Doctor Who, Sherlock, Supernatural…and it’s not that easy speaking to them about it, so I sort of have to keep pushing them to watch these awesome shows, otherwise I tend to retreat to the internet, and not talk to anyone for hours.
Eventually they understand that these fandoms are a foundation for my current personality (because yes personalities change over time) and it is not going to go away any time soon, so they get me as much merchandise for birthday and Christmas presents as they can, which I find as close as they can get to understanding my fandoms.
So What Do You Do?
In my case, it’s the waiting game. I know that my family will eventually get there, and I have at least one or two friends I can count on, since they’re all geeks too (I have some diehard Marvel fans as friends) and a few of them do watch the same shows I watch, so I have at least one or two shoulders to cry on whenever something tragic happens in my fandoms (no thanks to you Supernatural/Doctor Who/Sherlock), but as for the rest, I guess you can’t convert everyone.
So that’s pretty much it from me, I’d like to hear from all of you, what are your woes about being a 20s-something fangirl? If you are part of any of the fandoms I’m in, let me know! I’d love to hear your own theories about your ships and your AUs!
So what do you think? Let me know in the comments below and I’ll see you all soon!
This is Feather, signing out!